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Does anybody really help others anymore?

phatbaby28 started this conversation

Well, here I am, still in great need of help.  Thus far, I have had one person offer help as long as I helped him too.  I asked him what he needed help with and never heard back from him.  A lady referred me to her blogs for work at home opportunities.  Nothing came of that.  I was also signed up on digitalcharity.com and all I got from that was a bunch of scammers.  One idiot sent me a fake money order for $2402.00 and expected me to deposit this into my now $-635.53 bank account and send $500.00 to someone in London.  I quickly deleted my account. 

Ugh!  I am so tired-tired of my situation and certainly tired of people trying to hurt me when I am already down.  Whatever happened to the days when people were honest and true?  What happened to the humanitarian spirit?  I don't even know why I'm keeping my profile active because it seems no one actually ever helps anyone.  I just keep waiting for something amazing to happen and it never does. 

I am drowning and I can't get ahead.  It is a horrible, horrible feeling to just need a hand and not a single person is willing to extend theirs without some kind of string being attached to it.  It's a sad thing that some take others' desperation for stupidity and try to get over on them.  I'm neither desperate or stupid.  I just need help, but not at any cost.  I'm very disgusted with mankind right now.

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phatbaby28
 in response to cdegas...   I'm so sorry such bad things have happened to you.  We just have to keep doing what we can for others because I strongly believe there is such a thing as good karma.  I keep telling myself that I will get one big reward instead of little ones each time I do something good.  Someone has offered me some help.  As hard as it is for me to trust and believe in people now, I believe this person is the help I so desperately need.  I'm waiting on the help to arrive, but it's such a relief to know that it is on the way.  I am a good person and I know you are, too.  Just keep hanging in there-we eventually have to hit bottom in this downward spiral.  All this will be behind us one day.  When that day comes for me, I will not forget those I met along the road to despair.
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phatbaby28
 in response to nomo1mo...   Thanks for your kind words and encouragement.  I had already given up when someone contacted me and offered help.  I accepted and now I'm waiting to see what happens. 
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TGW
 in response to phatbaby28...   Well, from your last post, it doesn't seem as though your as optimistic as you once were.  Seems like you're about one step just ahead of me!  I got caught up a little but now it looks as though I'm slipping back again.  I've looked and looked but there's just no help out there for us.  All the vulchers are flying around overhead just waiting.  And the last I heard, it's going to get worse.  The begining of the year is going to be horrible for everyone.  Much worse than it is now.  Jobs are going to be virtually non-existant.  Like you, I'm over qualified for some jobs but not for others.  My industry changed and I got left behind.  Like you, I feel I don't deserve this.  I've given so much and helped others so much but now in my hour of need, there's nothing for me.  Yes, we're sounding selfish and resentfull.  But it's the truth.  I don't know what to tell you buddy.  My plan is that when I finally loose the house and everything else, to return to my mothers house.  It's just she doesn't know it yet!  Surprise!  But what else can I do?  Live on the streets?  Not when I have my mother's to return to.  Let's face it: the whole world has turned on us. Just stay away from those scams, remember there's no such thing as free money or loans and remember all of this when you go to the voting booth.
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cdegas

I know exactly how you feel. I put those same words on digital charity after all the scammers tried contacting me. Like you, I received $2500 in counterfeit money orders...I'm so tired of being taken. I lost my home of 10 years because of a fraudulent company doing a refinance, now I'm about to be evicted from the house I had to rent.  I used all the savings I had to rent this place and put up deposits...then they cut jobs and mine was one of them. I've been applying for jobs for months, but no one is hiring here and the ones that are say I'm over qualified. I try to stay positive, but it is difficult when so much is thrown at you from the negative side of things. I agree...where is the human aspect of things, when people who could afford to help people did so. I'd say I believed in karma, except none of the good things have ever come back to me. I've always tried to help others, it's truly depressing. I hope someone helps you...helps all of us who are feeling the stress, desperation and pressure. You sound like a good person and good people are hard to find. If I had money, I'd help you. We can only hope someone somewhere hears us.

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nomo1mo

Please don't give up five minutes before  your miracle happen, this may sound strange to you but life will go on inspite of how you feel .Remember feelings aren't facts. Feelin disgusted is one thing being disgusted with mankind is another.You will only waste valuable energy  focusing on your problems instead of your solutions .Yes  you maybe down today  but it will not last forever  ,You can handle antthing life throws at you

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Caring Heart

Hello Phatbaby28, I was truly touch by your response . Just as I'm touched by many ads I read. However, Yours touched me a little differently. I know it's hard right now but dont give up keep it moving.

To make a long story short I truly would like to help you. Please contact me. I need to know what your needs are how much and where.

Thank you

Caring Heart

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phatbaby28
 in response to TGW...   

I often ask God why he allows the people with good intentions and no means to help to be those that can't even help themselves let alone others.  It's just not fair!  Why do the people who can help keep the blessings for themselves when people are in dire need?  I just want to scream.  Thanks for your honesty and just for understanding.

 I probably should not complain because I've read worse stories than mine.  Some people take comfort knowing they are in good company, but not me.  It upsets me that people are suffering.  I read your story and I don't think filing bankruptcy for a few thousand dollars is the way to go.  I'm going through a Chapter 13 because I have a total of $50,000.00, some of which is student loans and cannot be discharged.  I would rather have filed a Chapter 7 to wipe it all out, but I opted for the 13 so I can somehow be seen as worthy of a second chance.  My suggestion to you is a debt management plan.  It will set up a convenient monthly payment for you and get the creditors off your back.  I can now answer my phone, even if it is a number I don't recognize calling, but look at what it's costing me.  I did some of it to myself and the rest I blame on falling on hard times.

I hope things get much better for you.  Keep your faith, it's all you have.  We have to believe things will get better one day.  It may not be soon, but it will happen.  If we don't try to keep positive, our lives will spiral even more out of control and who needs that? 

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mamashe/sheshe
 in response to TGW...   

Reply to TGW;---I understand your disappointment with mankind but I have found that it's not a particular person that will help you that your looking for, you need to tap into a system, a government or local system. Most of us here on aidpage are poor and do struggle with our demons be it pain or lack of money or just downright lonliness but we also know how to tap into a system whether it is a grant or a place that will help us with a medical problem for free. There is so much information on these pages it boggles the mind, all you have to do is pinpoint what you need the most, is it medical help or food or help with rent---whatever it is you have to hone in on one thing at a time and start combing the aidpage sites and ask questions if you get lost and need to be pointed in the right direction. Information is power and in the long run more important than money as you can use information more than one time and it never runs out and you can add to it all the time. You need just one right piece of information and your wrong about the people here being unable to help, the people here are your best help but you have to do the leg work and the reading to get what you need. I know that Florida has been hit very hard with no jobs and foreclosures all over the place but don't give up, now is the time when you have to be the strongest and work the hardest to find a way to make it through this hard time. Our economy is getting better but you have to look to find it right now and it will get better i promise. Sincerely sheshe030

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TGW

I understand your situation.  Your question.  And your depression over things.  I agree with you.  Is there anywhere to turn to for help?  I don't honestly know.  Personally, I don't think so.  People on this Aidpage are good people who would help if they could.  Like me.  We're all here together.  The people who could help are not here and most likely wouldn't anyway.  I'm in the Florida panhandle and the jobs front here is no better than Atlanta.  In fact, it's worst.  I'm just holding on to what I have and hope creditors don't take it all away.  I wish I could tell you it'll all be over with soon but I can't lie to you.  It's not going to be over for a long time.  But, I'll be willing to talk to you so we can rant at each other if you want :)  I have a page here as well.  It's TGW.  I'm disgusted with mankind right now as well.  Not with God, just man.

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phatbaby28
 in response to Rosie327...   

Thank you!

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Rosie327

You can write articles on Associated Content - it's not much money but if you are consistant you can make good money.  Just write about something you know or like.  You can also review TV shows, movies, books or places in your area.  Good luck!  Rosie

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Starshine
 in response to phatbaby28...   

U are welcome and check out womenforhire.com

CA residents have hard time getting jobs even for like liveops in CA.

those two work from home have to promote and they have stiff credit check so look for something on clist or make or own job, cleaning houses 20 hr for three hours I would rather do that If I could as always like being physical. 

good luck 

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phatbaby28
 in response to Starshine...   

Oh, thank you!  I'm certainly going to check those out.  Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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Starshine
 in response to phatbaby28...   

 http://www.dentalplans.com/afftracker.asp?affid=39322

THIS IS NOT AMERIPLAN free to join as affiliate and promote as is the tmi wireless one in my blog

I couldn't afford to do Am either 

take care 

Starshine

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phatbaby28
 in response to Starshine...   

I'm sorry you are having a hard time.  I'm sorry for all of us.  Your blog was helpful, but I don't have the start up cost for the Ameriplan work at home job.  I have been thinking about joining for quite some time, but I need guaranteed income.  The Ameriplan thing is something I can do for extra income one I am stable and back on my feet.  I've been a member of the homejobstop database for some time now.  I remember telling you about it.  The fee is worth every penny, the only problem is getting a response from an employer once you've applied for a job.  I stay up until dawn every night, searching the internet for jobs or some kind of break.  I just have this strong feeling that I'm getting closer to a solution.  That's what keeps me up nights.  I wish I'd find it already. 

I think Digital Charity should be shut down.  They allow anyone to post on their site and that's how people get taken.  Although I haven't received any help here, at least I don't have to worry about being scammed. 

Good luck to you, too.  This may be a long shot and it may never happen, but I swear on everything that means anything to me-if I EVER find myself with money and wondering what to do with it, I'm going to make a difference.  If I have it my way, pages like this will not exist because people will get the help they need.  

 

P.S.,

I know your needs are monetary, but a friend of mine turned me on to freecyle.org.  It's a site where people go to give away things absolutely free.  The only catch is you must offer up something before posting a request to receive.  I think that's a fair trade :)

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Starshine

A lot of people can't get ahead including me so you just have to keep looking at classifieds anywhere.

Since you hit my blog and no results try TinaLynLove on aidpage and in my blog is homejobstop.com but have to pay one time and they have a lot  those work from home places.

I did digital charity but never got scammer but was warned by someone about them. 

I hope things get better for all of us.

Good luck and I wish we all could get what we want sometimes it is hard to get what u just need though.

Peace

Starshine

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